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To some guys, sex life in Chiang Mai doesn't appear as vibrant as in large cities like Bangkok or obvious places like Pattaya. Indeed, there isn't a Soi Cowboy in Chiang Mai or a long street full of bars with girls offering themselves barely naked to passers-by. The sex scene in Chiang Mai is somewhat more discrete and delicate, if you will. But when you know how to move around, there is plenty of action to be had and Northern Thai girls are known for their beauty, so the average neighbour girl next door could already be a target ;)
Bangkok has the advantage of size and anonimity, but the disadvantage of lower quality of life and huge distances to cross with bad traffic, while Chiang Mai has so many beautiful girls, a much higher quality of life and ease of going around. For example, wherever you are in Chiang Mai, you'll be able to reach at least 20 different sex venues all within 15min. So I'd never choose life in Bangkok over a city like Chiang Mai, unless dating Thai girls is your sole and only target, because truth to tell, it is easier to meet girls in Bangkok through dating due to a a higher perceived sense of anonimity.
Still, compared to living in an over-regulated country (like in Western Europe), your sex life can be so much more vibrant than what you're used to. Thai culture, though not explicity tolerant on the official surface, is in fact much more accepting of sexual needs than Western culture, where even talking to a girl half your age can put you on a Me Too list.
Did you know that there's a love hotel in or around each and every little village in Thailand? In and around Chiang Mai there are easily some 20-30 love hotels. A love hotel is where Thai men bring their lovers, private contacts or girls they have picked up from a karaoke, a bar or online (sideline girls). Love hotels often appear in Thai soap series, indicating that this is simply a part of Thai culture.
Anyway, here's how to have a rich, alternating sex life in Chiang Mai.
PAID SEX SCENE IN CHIANG MAI
The paid sex scene is usually where most foreigners start, because it's the easiest way and very straightforward.
There are all kinds of options to enjoy a sexual experience and to put it simple, they vary in how it ends and what happens before the end.
Also sometiimes called Teen Massage shops because of the relatively young age of the girls, happy ending massage shops are a very accessible and low profile way to have some fun and sexual release.
There are essentially two kinds: the kind in which the happy ending is by hand (HJ) and the kind where girls will go all-the-way, meaning having sex (full service).
In some shops, there is a strict policy that the girls don't go beyond a certain limit, in other shops the girls are left free to negotiate anything, including sex, with the customer.
What happens before the end can be anything varying from a solid massage to a lame oil massage or a good sensual massage, it varies per shop.
So basically the combination of how good the massage part should be, whether you want to finish with a HJ or with sex, and how much you want to negotiate determines which shop you go to. Together with the choice of girls, of course.
Sex is not always better. Overall, the experience of having sex and at a shop which allows the girls to go all the way might be worse than at a shop where a girl gives you an outstanding sensual massage that ends with a HJ.
Before I go somewhere, I always think what I'm in the mood for. For me, the sexual journey counts more than the release, it can be much more fulfiling than plain plugging-in sex, but I also understand that as a man you need to thrust your release into the right spot, so sometimes you cannot avoid places where the journey counts less than the end.
Erotic massage parlours where the treatment is a body-to-body massage sliding session are often called B2Bs in Thailand. The session either ends in a HJ or in full service (sex), but only very few shops (officially) limit the options to a happy ending by HJ.
What does differ is whether you can buy full service over the counter or not, if not, you have to negotiate with the girl in the room.
Some shops use normal massage oil for the body-to-body sliding while others try to distinguish themselves by using nuru gel, but the truth is that only very few shops really know how to use nuru gel, so in most cases there is no significant difference and that should not be a reason for you to choose nuru gel over massage oil.
Obviously, do not expect any soild massage here and even for the body-to-body massage part it can be cut short to only 10min or so, which means that in the majority of B2B shops in Thailand, there is no real sense of sensuality and excitement, although they can have (very) pretty girls and so the main reason for you to go here is just because you want to f#ck that hot girl.
Soapy Massage Parlours are somewhat a bit of a thing of the past in Chiang Mai, most of them are gone and they have trouble to compete with the B2Bs. Yet, there is still some attraction in the ease of buying sex-on-demand of the Soapies.
In some Soapies, you still get a sliding session on an air mattress with soap bubbles as it was designed a few decades ago (hence the name Soapy), in others that's gone and it's simply shower and have sex.
There can be a bit of a massage in some soapies, but of course don't expect anything thorough.
This is also a very straightforward way to have sex: walk-in, pick-a-chick, go to a nearby Love Hotel and do her in 30min or 1 hour.
There are no high-so brothels in Chiang Mai, they are rather basic so you gotto brace yourself, but there can be cute girls and it's not expensive.
This is a phenomenon not so well known in the West. Sideline girls are girls looking for side income next to their study or work. Most of them operate on their own, some go through agents.
Sideline girls are mostly for short term: one hour in a love hotel or in your own hotel.
Although the original idea of the sideline girl is this otherwise pristine student girl who needs some help to pay for her college fees, unfortunately a lot of this market has been penetrated by professional and long term hookers whom I'll rather call freelancers, to make the distinction.
Many student girls are in need of a helping hand
In essence, also girls looking for side income, but more beautiful than your average student girl, sometimes influencer-level and much more expensive (range THB 8,000 - 15,000 for 1 visit). These girls normally go through exclusive agents and typically don't sleep with sugar daddies that often.
The benefit of going for this class is that you'll meet a relatively normal girl, not a professional full-time hooker.
In a Karaoke, you normally book a VIP room, ideally with a group of friends. You chill out, sing some songs, drink and perhaps eat something and have the girls sit next to you.
Many, but not all, karaokes have a 'bar fine' to take a girl back home. If not, you can exchange contact details with her and see how you go.
Beware of all the (hidden) charges of Karaokes: there are mandatory fees to rent the room (per time period), to buy drinks, to have the girls sit next to you (per time period), to have the guys serve drinks, to have the mama-san do the overall supervision, and so on.
From small bars in a zone like Santitam area, to large establishments around town, Thai bars offer a good playground to chill and slowly pick up a girl. Don't always expect to get home with a girl the same night, the idea here is to chat with her and get into an arrangement over time.
You can also pick up girls in foreigner-oriented bars, such as Zoe or Spicy. There are more plain hookers hanging around there than in Thai style bars, but you can also meet 'normal' girls.
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"UNPAID" SEX SCENE IN CHIANG MAI
Besides all these pretty straightforward ways to have sex-and-go, you could also walk the venues of dating or having some kind of long term arrangement with a Thai lady. Although this is not an obviously sex-for-money interaction, in Thailand the Money Factor is more prevalent than in other countries with good social welfare systems. So for sure, dating a Thai woman can in the end be far more expensive than just opting for one of the many ways to have sex-on-demand as outlined above.
OPTIONS
You can date girls that you meet in daily life, which I think is the best way, or you can resort to Online Dating. there are plenty of sites in Thailand, paid and free, casual and more serious. Converting chatting to dating is another story. In general, Chiang Mai girls are more provincial and a bit less open-minded than girls in Bangkok, it will take a bit longer to get to the action.
This is also not a bad way to engage with Thai girls. Accepting that money usually does play a background role in Thai relationships, it's not a bad idea to make it explicit and have a girl come and visit you regularly at an agreed price. Some girls are looking for a sugar daddy for the long term. Since you get to meet each other regularly, she can actually start to feel like a girlfriend, but without the strong commitments, and you can enjoy more intimacy than with short-term girls.
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