Lingam Massage in Chiang Mai


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Most guys know what a Happy Ending massage is, and some know something about erotic massage or soapy massage, but relatively few people have heard of Lingam massage. Yet, Lingam massage can be a very worthwhile experience, and if you had a good one, you surely won't be so interested a simple handjob massage anymore.

WHAT IS LINGAM MASSAGE?

Lingam masssage is a form of Tantric massage that includes massage of the male genitalia. Tantra is in essence a spiritual school originating from India that encompasses a whole lot of things, including Tantra Yoga.

The Lingam is a phallic symbol worshipped in Hinduism as a divine generative energy and a symbol of Shiva. Interestingly, even in Thailand and in Chiang Mai one can find phallic symbols named palad khik1 ปลัดขิก. Locals trace it back to Pram religion ศาสนาพราหมณ์ (historical Vedic religion, later Brahmanism) so essentially it has the same roots.

Palad khik symbol in Thailand actually derives from Lingam and is not uncommon
The Palad khik symbol in Thailand actually derives from Lingam and is not uncommon.
You can even order them online on Shopee or Lazada and monks meditate on it to bless it with special energy.

The Sanskrit word 'Lingam' is often translated as 'wand of light', so in essence Lingam massage is a massage (in worship) of the penis but it normally also includes the testicles, the perineum, and other sensitive and erogenous zones of the male body.

In the same way as Lingam massage is Tantric massage of the male genitalia, Yoni massage is a Tantric massage in worship of the female genitalia.

Phallic symbol in Thailand
Phallic symbol in the market in Thailand

SOME MORE ABOUT TANTRA

Libraries have been filled up with books about Tantra and in today's world there are various great schools of Tantra (often named with a color: White, Red, Grey, Black Tantra), each with their own distinct differences and emphases. For the purpose of this article about Tantric Lingam massage, it's enough to know a few main points.

Tantric massage is all about your sexual energy. Sexual energy is one of the most powerful forces within your system: consciously or unconsciously, it drives you, it can make you mad, it can give you children or it can be expelled during ejaculation, but it can also be felt in your body as a wonderful, vibrating, rejuvenating energy that fills you up with a glow, makes you peaceful and loving, relieves you of stress and heals you from inside.

Recognizing your sexual energy as one of the most important powers in your body is a first step towards understanding the Tantric way. Rushing to ejaculate in a 5-min handjob is the exact opposite of it.

Tantra is about the wonder of touch, the magic of sexual attraction between the male and the female, about the intimate meeting of Shiva embodied through you and Shakti embodied through the beautiful woman in front of you, as they have met a zillion times during a zillion years through countless others, and still will. It's the sexual dance of the universe or if you will, it's about love.


TANTRA IS ALL ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL ENERGY
AND ABOUT THE MEETING OF THE FEMALE DIVINE THROUGH HER WITH THE MALE DIVINE THROUGH YOU


These are big and beautiful words that may either thrill or perhaps put you off. The thing about Tantra and Tantric Lingam massage is that it can be done and experienced at an incredible wide range of levels: you can either simply enjoy the touch of a beautiful woman and feel how it arouses you, or you can take things more seriously and try to achieve some target as 'hard-core Tantrikas' tend to do (such as becoming multi-orgasmic, wakening up the kundalini energy2 or even becoming enlightened).

I don't recommend anybody to go into a Lingam massage session too seriously because that automatically blocks your ability to relax-enjoy-and-experience. Besides that, the Lingam massages I recommend here are based on the practice of allowing pleasure to lead you to more, not theoretical concepts or expectations about goals.

And in Tantra, the journey is more important than the goal.

Lingam massage in Chiang Mai
In Lingam massage, the therapist connects to the heart and to the genitalia

PURPOSE OF LINGAM MASSAGE

Let's elaborate a bit further on the purpose of Lingam massage.

The 'working' purpose of the therapist in Tantric Lingam massage is the slow arousal and spreading out of sexual energy throughout your body, rather than stimulating the urge to expel it quickly through ejaculation. Typically, Tantrikas visualise the spreading of energy as going upwards from your tailbone along your spine through the so-called chackras, which are energy centers, but I believe you should not limit your imagination to that picture only.
As energy travels upwards through energy centers or spreads throughout your body, you may have all kinds of experiences. Some people feel energized, others feel touched, some feel they have reconnected with their ability to love, anything might happen and it's all good.

Chart of the Chackras
Energy centers in the body: the 7 chackras from bottom to top

The mission of the therapist is awaken your sexual energy, to bring it into your genitalia and then to spread it, not to let you ejaculate quickly as happens in normal mediocre handjob massages. The more your sexual energy builds up, the more pressure there is for it to move out of your genitalia to other parts of your body (compare it to a hydraulic pump, if you will). The therapist uses special techniques to help you build up the energy without immediate ejaculation. In the end, you may choose to ejaculate which may happen as a Big Bang that you never had before, or you may choose to preserve your sexual energy.

Although the therapist works towards this mission, you should not commit yourself to a goal, just stay open minded and relaxed, feel what happens. You may feel things you haven't felt before, you may reconnect with an unprocessed long-stored emotion that needed healing, you may cry or you may laugh, it's all good, just allow it to be. Let the power of your own sexual energy and the care of the therapist guide you.

So, while the therapist has a clear mission, you should have no aim because for you the journey is more important than the destination. This is the real purpose of Lingam massage.


THE PURPOSE OF TANTRIC LINGAM MASSAGE LIES IN THE JOURNEY, NOT IN THE END GOAL


Remember that your Lingam massage did not fail if you did not have an earth-shattering climax or a multi-orgasmic experience. Lingam massage is already a worthwhile experience if you experienced sexual pleasure for a bit longer than usual, if you felt it throughout your body or more than just your penis, or ... if you simply enjoyed it.

Tantric Lingam massage in Chiang Mai

TECHNIQUES OF LINGAM MASSAGE: EDGING-AND-WAVING

A well-trained therapist will use special techniques that are focused on awakening, building up and spreading sexual energy as well as preventing it from erupting too soon.

A special technique that is used for that is called edging-and-waving.

Edging and waving technique by qualified therapist in Chiang Mai

Imagine you're surfing big waves in the ocean. With skills, control and restraint, you can use them to be lifted to great heights and afar. Lacking skills, control and restraint or in taking too much risk, you may tumble over the edge of the wave or fall into the water.

It's the same with edging-and-waving. The waves represents the power of your sexual energy and the top of a wave is your orgasm. If you surf well, you can slide up along a wave and have an orgasm without falling, then slide over to the next wave, which is even bigger, and get high on it, then slide over to the next one and so forth.
Surfing onto the top of the wave without falling means having an orgasm without ejaculating3. After you ejaculated, the power of the waves will diminish, if there are still any. But riding out the waves without ejaculation creates even more momentum so you can get to an even higher wave the next time. Reaching the tops of several waves essentially means becoming multi-orgasmic.
Ideally, you ride out at least a few waves before surrendering to the stillness of the water and allowing yourself to be washed ashore.

Sounds difficult? Perhaps, but the good news here is that you're not alone: a trained therapist will be able to guide you on top of your waves.

So in essence, edging-and-waving is the art of moving up along the waves to get higher and higher without falling, at least for a while. In the end, you may choose to ejaculate or you may choose to preserve to preserve your energy (however, most men choose to ejaculate in the end). If you do ejaculate in the end, the outburst may be much more powerful than during a quick handjob, because the pressure built up is much higher.

You can do edging-and-waving with your girlfriend, a Tantric partner or with a trained massage therapist. Some men master the techniques to do edging-and-waving entirely by themselves, others need help from their partner.

How high you can go in each wave depends on your health condition, and what techniques may be applied depends on your personal situation.

Read more about techniques in Edging and Waving

Now you will understand that there is a world of difference (especially in mindset) between masseuses in average happy ending massage parlors and a trained therapist who can do proper edging-and-waving: there is hardly any challenge in letting you go off in the first wave, the real challenge is in guiding you through several waves. Even during training, some therapists give up because they find it too difficult.

Some people compare edging-and-waving to a tease-and-denial game. Lingam does have something in common with that, but now you also understand there's much more to it. 

BENEFITS OF LINGAM MASSAGE

Besides the obvious benefit of pleasure, Lingam massage can energize you in a way which is very different from a fast handjob. A fast handjob can deplete you and make you feel tired and sleepy in particular if you masturbated alone.

In Lingam, the slow arousal and spreading out of sexual energy by the therapist throughout your body may be felt as very invigorating, recharging, almost like a glow that stays with you for a while. If, with help of the therapist, you choose and manage to control your ejaculation at least once or a few times, this effect can be even more profound.

Sexual energy spreading and stored in your body can work in enormously healing and developing ways, both mentally and emotionally as well as spiritually. It can also help in restoring the connecting between your genitals and your heart, in modern psycho-analytic terminology called the Madonna-whore complex4.

Another benefit of Lingam massage is that it can help you improve sexual stamina and counter the urge of premature ejaculation. (In fact, quick handjobs by girls who want to get the job done quickly should be avoided because they can lead to problems of premature ejaculation, and then you need Karsai massage therapy to fix that.)

Read more about different kinds of genital massage in Thailand here

SHOULD YOU TRY LINGAM MASSAGE?

Everybody can try Lingam massage, but it may not be the best thing for everybody all of the time. If you're just dead horny and on the verge of exploding, you may be better off just going for a good happy ending massage or find a girl to have sex with.
A good moment for Lingam massage is when you feel you can last a bit longer or at least you don't have an urgent desire to ejaculate, but instead you can imagine how you would enjoy all lot of attention for your genitalia, and you have an open mind to experience whatever happens then.

LINGAM MASSAGE PROVIDERS IN THAILAND AND ELSEWHERE IN SOUTHEAST ASIA

There are a lot of massage shops everywhere using the word 'lingam' and 'tantra' or 'tantric' mainly for advertising purposes, but most of them don't really understand what tantra is, typically they don't train the girls properly or they simplify the treatment to not much more than a handjob. Even in a mega city like Bangkok with millions of people, it is very, very hard to find a proper Lingam or Tantra massage.

The best Tantric Lingam massages in Thailand are provided by All about Touch Massage, Dream Massage and Daisuki Massage, all in Chiang Mai. This is because:

  1. the girls have at least a basic understanding of the Tantric approach and mostly follow the steps of Tantric techniques;
  2. you can choose a young and pretty girl;
  3. they can all do proper edging-and-waving;
  4. their Lingam package are at very affordable pricing.

Ad 1. Fist, you've got to realise that Tantric concepts and techniques can be rather overwhelming for anyone, that's why there are courses to study it for days. For Thai massage therapists, it is even more difficult because the approch is so different from modern Thai culture (which sadly has become rather superficial5 in modern times). But in all of these four shops recommended, real and genuine efforts were made to train the girls and no girls are allowed to perform Lingam massage if they fail to do proper edging. To "train" somebody's mindset or mindfullness in a few hours or weeks is, of course, impossible, so you've got to be a bit forgiving if you're a hardcore Tantrika and you feel that that is partially lacking.

Ad 2. I've had Lingam massages with old-and-not-so-pretty-anymore therapists, who perhaps followed Tantric principles quite well or mastered some hand techniques quite well, but in the end Tantra is about attraction between the male and the female, so it's so much nicer and more natural if you have a cute young girl do it on you than an old lady.

Ad 3. In Thailand, it's quite hard to find massage therapists who can do proper edging-and-waving. Besides that, not all Lingam providers do edging-and-waving. Lingam massage without edging-and-waving is possible, but you're missing a dimension.

Overall, the above recommended shops offer the best deals because they combine all of these things together and even at a price lower than most other Lingam providers in Thailand. On top of that, if you're healthy and the edging is conducted properly, you may have several orgasms in one session which makes it absolutely an offer you can't refuse.

There are other Lingam providers in Thailand, but they don't offer the combination of all these benefits.

For example, in Bangkok, there is a freelance Tantra practitioner called Emily who has done some Western Tantra training. She is very dedicated and makes great effort, but in the end I found the session unsatisfying mainly because she believes the customer should ejaculate (she didn't even ask me), because she doesn't fully understand the male body and energy and because IMHO she got some concepts wrong. She's very enthusiastic and being one of very few Thai women to take Tantra seriously is guaranteed a steady stream of clientele, but I don't consider her a top Tantric practitioner, more of an enthusiastic Tantra student who mainly learns from her students.


WITHOUT UNDERSTANDING, CARE AND ATTENTION
LINGAM MASSAGE RISKS BECOMING REDUCED TO A PLAIN HANDJOB


Then there are places like Analisa, Bunny Girls and so on in Bangkok but from the name and looks you can already judge that this is more about plain sex, body-to-body massage and handjobs. Then, there are some outcall service agents such as Exotic Bangkok (which also operates under the name Body Bliss) with glossy websites which have put the right keywords in place, but certainly most of the girls have developed more 'skills' for the straightforward full service package (sex) rather than for a proper Lingam massage. Exotic Bangkok lists Tantra massage as separate from Lingam massage, but Lingam massage is Tantric. These outcall agents boast that their girls master more than 20 different techniques but the essence in doing a Tantric Lingam massage lies of course not in applying a certain number massage stroke variations but in doing things from a certain mindset and from the heart with as much understanding as possible about what Lingam really is, else it becomes void.

An excellent shop for therapeutical purposes in Bangkok is @581 by Nana with skilled therapists capable of curing all kinds of genital issues. All therapists here are really good with lots of experience, but over 40 years of age so don't come here if you want to enjoy the pleasure of a young girl, only choose this place to remedy issues with your prostate or penis. @581 also offers a so-called Lingam package at THB 2,800 for 75 min, but this only consists of edging-and-waving and is void of Tantric concepts.
The therapist in @581 told me that my erection wasn't strong and wondered why. When I told her I'm used to pretty young girls - no offense -, she told me to close my eyes and imagine a young girl. Eventually I managed to, but it's always better when there is a real hot girl next to you, especially if she masters the same technique as in the above recommended shops..

Then there are those who use Lingam massage interchangeably for any kind of penis massage, whether it is a happy ending massage or a therapeutical massage. But those are not Tantric Lingam massages. In Chiang Mai, there are also such shops, which merely aims to gain side traction from the word Lingam6.

Overall, I found the Tantric Lingam scene in Bangkok rather disappointing considering the size of the city, but I got even more disappointed in other Southeast Asian cities. In Hong Kong, for example, most of the massage scene is completely dishonest and many shops get away with plain cheating. Typically, so-called Tantric or Lingam massage providers advertise with compelling websites, references and texts that they plagiated from somewhere, then they offer only outcall massages so that they don't have to take responsibility. When asked for pictures, you'll get blurred faces so when the girl finally knocks on your door she's not as pretty as suggested. That's okay, because you want skills in the first place, but she's got none and she doesn't even know what her boss advertises. She'll then give you a lame massage that has nothing to do with Tantric Lingam and ask you after 10min if you want a handjob at an extra HKD 800 (about USD 100), but you already paid HKD 1,200 (about USD 150) to get her into your room for the massage which was supposed to be a Lingam massage. When you call the boss, he'll start threatening you.
So considering the total lack of quality and the damage to your bank account that this adventure could cost you, you get much, much more value, quality and integrity from the Lingam massages in Thailand in All about Touch, Dream MassageDaisuki Massage and Senz~ Diva Massage. Even if you're critical about the degree of Tantric content, you already get a proper edging-and-waving session which is already worth the price and would cost you much more elsewhere.


NOT EVERY PENIS MASSAGE IS A TANTRIC LINGAM MASSAGE


HOW TO GET MOST OUT OF YOUR LINGAM MASSAGE

I believe the most important thing to do when undergoing a Lingam massage is to have an open mind without too many expectations. If you read a lot of books and have a lot of theories in your mind, you may not be totally open to the experience as it unfolds. You're gonna want to bend it towards the 'desired results'.

Besides this, the following may help:

  • Allow yourself to relax completely
  • Breathe deeply. On the inhale, imagine your breath going up along your spine until the crown of your head and keep it there for a moment. Then exhale and let it sink back into you pelvis.
    At some point, the therapist may take the lead in breathing deeply, try to breathe in rhythm with her, that increases the connection.
  • Share any issues you have or experience with the therapist (as far as the language gap allows for)
  • For edging-and-waving, a little communication between you and the therapist is necessary.
  • Allow pleasure to come but don't rush into a habit of wanting to ejaculate fast.
  • If you can, try to see in your massage therapist the Woman of all Women, a Goddess, the Embodiment of all of Femininity.

The last item on the list is very Tantric and philosophical. By seeing her as the ultimate beauty, it effectively transforms you as the observer. As the saying goes, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, so what does it say about the observer and the observed? It means that the observed is beautiful only because YOU find it so. By being a beholder of beauty, you effectively transform your perspective, something happens inside you that has opened up to the world.

This is also a common practical mistake by some Tantric practitioners, who believe that you should be able to see the Divine Female in each and every woman randomly put in front of you. It took me 5 days of a Tantra workshops to be able to see a beauty in the girl randomly assigned to me, a beauty that was actually beyond her, but this cannot be expected from a customer walking into a shop trying a Lingam massage for the first time in his life. So if you're trying Tantric massage with a practitioner you actually don't find attractive and beautiful, you'll have a harder time seeing that beauty in her. But if you just picked a cute girl with proper skills, it's much more natural to feel thrilled by her beauty and to feel excited by her touch.
Even though in Tantra, the beauty you're supposed to see in her is some kind of transcendental beauty, beyond the surface of her appearance, still the starting point is easier when you feel a natural attraction to the girl.

I've tried massages with Lingam therapists who wondered why I didn't get a real hard erection while they working their hands sore on me. Well, the simple answer is that I didn't find them attractive and sorry I was not able to quickly make the transformation in my perception because I just walked through the door. But if a cute young girl puts her hands in my thighs, the erection is immediate and natural, I don't have to make an effort to see her as beautiful because I already do and looking at her more makes me want her more.

FAQ

ISN'T TANTRA SUPPOSED TO BE ABOUT SEX? IS THE TREATMENT GOING TO END IN SEX?

Many people know Tantra in connection to sex. But Tantric massage can and may exist by itself, without sex. If it is used as a foreplay to continue with sex either in a couple or between a customer and a therapist, that's all great. Some Lingam providers explicitly offer that, others don't offer it in the shop.

IT SEEMS BETTER NOT TO EJACULATE BUT I WANT TO

It's perfectly alright to ejaculate, nobody should have a judgement about you ejaculating. All that's being suggested is that Lingam massage offers an opportunity to play with it, to delay it and see how that feels, it's an opportunity to experiment. A loaded gun is more powerful than one without munition. Some people feel good being 'continent' (completely and consistently stopping ejaculation), others feel great by letting it burst. Do what feels best.

I HAVE SOME SEXUAL ISSUES, CAN LINGAM CURE ME?

The healing power of Lingam massage works more on an energetic and perhaps emotional level than purely on a physical level. If, for example, you have erection issues caused by enlarged prostate, physical blockages in the tubes and lymphatic system, or still muscles in the perineum, you may benefit more from a more physical approach such as Karsai ancient Thai genital massage. If, however, they are caused by emotional blockages or lack of libido, Lingam massage could be very benefiical.

CAN I BOOK LINGAM FOR OUTCALL?

Yes, you can. The only disadvantage is that in Tantra a certain ambiance is preferred to bring your senses in the right mood: soft lights, candles, calm perhaps meditative music and nice fragrances. For outcall massage, the therapist may not be able to create for all that in a hotel room.

CAN I TOUCH THE THERAPIST?

It is very natural to have the urge to touch the therapist during Lingam massage. Most therapists allow modest touching, but it's up to the girl how much she allows. If you like a more intimate version of Lingam massage, book Lingam Plus or Lingam Deluxe with one of the shops recommended above.

MORE ABOUT TECHNIQUES IN EDGING-AND-WAVING AND STOPPING EJACULATION

Various techniques can be applied in edging-and-waving and in particular in stopping ejaculation.

First of all, how high you can go on each wave depends on your health condition. When you are completely healthy, you can go higher than when you are of age or have issues with heart or blood (note that any health issues should be communicated to the therapist!).
Depending on your health and age, the therapist will hold ejaculation in a more gentle or more abrupt way. Besides that, some simple coordination with the therapist is necessary as to how high you feel you are on the wave. This will help her to manage the process best.

A critical point in male physiology towards orgasm is the Point-of-No-Return. When a man reaches the Point-of-No-Return, the prostate starts an involuntary reflex of spasm so ejaculation is imminent. Not many people can stop this spasm, but ejaculation can be stopped in other ways with certain techniques.

Some techniques to stop ejaculation can be learned and mastered all by yourself.
For example, a popular technique that quite a lot of men interested in this topic are familiar with is the so-called Power Draw. Although effective, it is a somewhat old-fashioned technique that is mostly popular in certain communities. A big downside of the Power Draw is that it so forcefully extracts sexual energy from your genitals to other parts of your body that it can cause a shock to the vascular system. That's why it should not be practised by older men or those with heart or blood issues. Besides that, after the Power Draw is done, it can take a long time to build up energy again in your genital area.

A much better, much more gentle and equally effective technique that you can learn to master completely by yourself is by using your Pelvic Floor in combination with breathing techniques and mind power. You can train and strengthen your Pelvic Floor with Kegel Exercises. This technique is much more elegant and creates an acceptable, natural pressure moment to the blood circulation. A strong and flexible Pelvic Floor also improves erection. Modern Western lifestyle with a lot of sitting stiffens and weakens the Pelvic Floor.
Besides that, a good therapist can also massage the muscles in the Pelvic Floor to make them more flexible.

Most important in all these methods of stopping ejaculation by yourself are mind control, breathing, and muscle control.

Some of the therapists will be able to give you a little bit of education by helping you to become aware of your Pelvic Floor muscles. With the timely use of your Pelvic Floor, you may even work in concert with the therapist to stop ejaculation.

I'D LIKE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS, CAN I TAKE COURSES ON THIS IN CHIANG MAI?

At this moment not yet. But some of the therapists recommended here are trained and can give you some sexual education during the treatment. Also, be sure to leave your comments or requests at the shop so that perhaps a more targeted education effort can be organised in the future.


DIFFERENT KINDS OF GENITAL MASSAGE IN THAILAND

1. HAPPY ENDING MASSAGES

The quality of Happy Ending massages varies greatly from a poor or mediocre HJ in say Loi Kroh road to a wonderful sensually uplifting experience as provided in one of the top shops in town.
Girls in the mediocre Happy Ending massage shops typically rush to the HJ in the end ("do you want special?") without any understanding of sensuality. Girls in body-to-body massage parlours also generally lack that feeling for sensuality, and typically aim for quick sex.
Girls in the best massage shops in town (notably All about Touch, Daisuki and Dream Massage) generally do a better job in applying sensuality and real massage skills in the massage.

2. KARSAI MASSAGE

This is a therapeutical massage, purely physical, with the objective to clear blockages and relieve or cure all kinds of genital issues, not to make you come (although that often happens because the customer can't control himself).
The massage style is not sensual, psychological, emotional or spiritual at all.

Read more about Karsai massage

3. LINGAM MASSAGE

As discussed, Lingam massage distinctly differs from the above categories both in concept, purpose and techniques.

The purpose of Lingam massage is not necessarily to make you ejaculate or even orgasm, but it's rather about a slow build up of sexual energy and whatever that brings about during the session. The concept of Lingam massage is deeper and can develop into more energetic, emotional and spiritual directions.

During Lingam massage, the masseuse will use some different techniques from a normal happy ending massage, although some techniques may overlap.


NOTES

1. Interestingly, in Thailand the meaning of the phallic symbol Palad khik was changed - or perhaps better phrased: twisted, to become associated with doing good business. Most Thai people are Buddhists and see this phallic symbol that originates from another religion as a talisman of good luck for business. That's why you may encounter it on seemingly odd places, such as hanging above vegetables on a market place.
Similarly, even in India many people do not know the original meaning of the Shiva Lingam and the rituals around it anymore. This change of meaning happens everywhere over time and in particular when two religions collide or overlap, after all even in the West the roles of santa claus and Jesus have oddly been assimilated in what we now know as Christmas.

2. The Kundalini energy is believed to reside in the root chackra, let's say very near to your tailbone, and can be awakened to rise like a snake along your spine up towards the crown of head.

3. Note that ejaculation and orgasm are not the same thing: a man can have an orgasm without ejaculation. Typically, in male physiology, orgasm happens a fraction of a second before ejaculation. There are various techniques to allow orgasm to happen while stopping ejaculation. It's also possible to stop ejaculation for a while and then let it go. Some more serious practioners choose to stop ejaculation for a long period of time, this is called being continent. Whether to ejaculate or not in the end, is your choice.

4. The Madonna-whore complex, also called the Madonna-mistress Complex, is a condition in which a man has (to some extent) disconnected his sexual energy from love. In practical terms: he cannot get aroused by the person he loves, he can only feel sexually attracted to women he doesn't love. As Freud wrote: "Where such men love they have no desire and where they desire they cannot love." This condition can exist on various levels, for example some men need to look down on a woman or see her as a 'bitch' to want to have sex with her, while others can't get a hard-on with someone they truly love because something is blocking them, perhaps an emotional trauma or the idolisation of the mother archetype as a pure and clean image in their mind.
(This is, by the way, something different from an average relationship having grown into more of a friendship over the years where sex has withered because of getting used to each other, lack of play, or boredom, something many relationships suffer from.)
In Tantric Yoga, the Madonna-whore complex could be viewed as a disconnection between the sexual and the heart chackra, this is why certain techniques are applied to restore the flow of energy between the chackras. The sexual chackra is the second or Sacral Chackra (Svadhishthana Chakra), the heart chackra is the fourth chackra (Anahata Chackra). In Kundalini Tantra, Kundalini energy is seen as stored in the first, the root chackra (Muladhara Chakra).

5. Without judgment or considering one culture more superior than another, modern Thai culture with its addiction to smartphones, social media and materialism has lost touch with its spiritual roots and most Thai people don't really understand anymore where they really come from. Lack of education, both about the modern world and about its own background, and rigid social structures do not create the ideal environment for Thai people to grow up as conscious beings especially when it comes to emotional and spiritual development.
Some tantrikas have had a more advantageous starting position with a cultural background and education more open to what Tantra has to offer. Nevertheless, some Thai therapists can turn out to be natural talents, even without having had this more advantageous starting position and with training, assistance and customer feedback can grow to become good Tantric practitioners. Let's celebrate them.

6. In Chiang Mai, an example of a shop which merely uses the power of the words Tantra and Lingam for advertising without really knowing about the concepts is Aloha Massage, an otherwise infamous Chinese copy cat which usually copies the better shops in town.



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Massimo around the world Posted on January 17, 2023 at 13:52:52
Thks this interesting post and infos kap kun mak
Walter Posted on January 04, 2023 at 19:58:34
Hi, can you give me the details about your plus and deluxe package please
Kenneth man on Ko Posted on November 28, 2022 at 05:39:24
How can I have lingam massage by male masseur at home in Chiangmai Mai
CM Locator Posted on September 27, 2022 at 07:40:40
@Devo & @Red: For details about their Plus / Deluxe package, please contact the shops directly. In general, it's best to experience it
Red Posted on September 27, 2022 at 05:17:13
@Devo did this question ever get answered? I've been wondering the same thing...
Devo Posted on August 21, 2022 at 16:55:11
Very interesting reading. I am considering a lingham massage at All About Touch. Please clarify the difference between regular and plus/deluxe. You say more intimate …. In what way ?

Thanks